Honoring Your Motherhood, Healing Generational Patterns

Written By Hey Allison Ly

Generational Healing while Honoring Your Feelings

 

Ep. 24 Honor Your Motherhood

We talk about motherhood, generational patterns, family dynamics, self-care, taking up space, and what it means to honor what you need and what you’re feeling.

Allison Ly, LCSW,  Faith-Ann Young and Sara Stanizai, LMFT share about how they honor their own experiences at the Honor Your Feelings Fest hosted by Asian Mental Health Project.

This was the Honor Your Motherhood Panel.

And even if you’re not a mother or a parent, the topics we discuss still applies. 

We talk about:

  • How to create space for yourself

  • What it means to feel your feelings

  • Generational patterns and inherited dynamics

  • The pressure to care for everyone

  • The Repay Cycle

  • What we owe to our parents, children, and ourselves

  • What self-care looks like in daily life

  • What we choose to keep and what we choose to leave behind


Take some time to honor yourself, however that looks for you, as you listen.

Connect with Asian Mental Health Project, Faith-Ann Young and Sara Stanizai, in the links provided.

🎧Listen to the full episode HERE


Mentioned in Podcast:

Asian Mental Health Project

Honor Your Feeling Fest

Sara Stanizai, LMFT

Therapist, Founder of Prospect Therapy, Founder 

Website: https://www.prospecttherapy.com

Instagram: @prospecttherapy

Faith-Ann Young

Artist, Community Activist + Mother of 2 

Website: https://www.faithannyoung.com

Instagram: @faithannyoung

Bios:

Asian Mental Health Project

Asian Mental Health Project provides educational resources and community care initiatives that help make mental health care more accessible and approachable for the Pan-Asian community. [They create] multimedia resources, host community events and provide mental health assistance grants.

Sara Stanizai, LMFT

Sara is a licensed marriage and family therapist who founded Prospect Therapy to create a queer- and trans-affirming practice specifically serving first-generation American and immigrant communities. In addition to being primarily a couples therapist, Sara is a sought-after speaker and facilitator on a variety of topics including queer and trans healthcare, family relationship dynamics, and the Afghan-American experience. She has a special place in her heart for fellow eldest daughters carrying intergenerational responsibilities, and helps them continue meaningful traditions while making room for themselves. She serves on the board of Asian Mental Health Collective and Mind-1-1. Sara is passionate and knowledgeable about leadership in marginalized communities, and believes in the importance of lived experience in the professional world. 

Faith-Ann Young

Faith-Ann is a Los Angeles–based, half-Japanese artist working across photography, textiles, and installation. Inspired by her Japanese heritage and family history, her work explores memory, belonging, and cultural connection through immersive and participatory experiences. She is the creator of Kibō Nobori (“hope flags”), a community art project inspired by traditional Japanese koinobori that has been presented in Little Tokyo for the past five years. In 2026, Young received a Certificate of Recognition from the City of Los Angeles for her contributions to Children’s Day celebrations and the preservation of Japanese cultural traditions in Los Angeles.

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Episode Timeline:

  • 00:00 Why Honoring Our Feelings Matter

  • 00:41 Honor Your Feelings Fest By Asian Mental Health Project

  • 01:55 Meditation in the Noise

  • 03:48 Fun Healing

  • 05:17 Honor Your Feelings Fest Highlights 

  • 06:30 Why Immigrant Kids Struggle

  • 09:25 Ask Yourself This Three Times

  • 13:13 Check in on This

  • 15:40 Try This


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Hey Allison Ly

Allison Ly (pronounced "LEE"), Coach for Adults with Immigrant Parents. Helping you unlock your fullest potential, live your best life while also giving back to your loved ones in a way that works for you.

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Some of my favorite topics include: boundaries, self compassion, managing our negative thoughts and all things that impact adults with immigrant parents. I empower you to leave the self-doubt, and self-sacrificing patterns behind while caring for those you love, in ways that work for you.

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