Stop Comparing Yourself to Your Parents

Written By Hey Allison Ly
 

Ep 23: Honoring Your Parents’ Experience Without Carrying Their Pain

 

Ep 23: Why Comparing Yourself to Your Parents Hurts

Mentioned in Podcast:

Asian Mental Health Project

Honor Your Feeling Fest

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Don’t Compare Yourself in Order to Honor Them

Having immigrant parents, it can be hard to make sense of our experiences without feeling guilty about what our parents went through and comparing our experiences with theirs. 

In this episode, I share some of the questions from the Honor Your Motherhood panel held by Asian Mental Health Project that we didn't get to answer live. These questions are so important. 

Whether you're a parent or not, you can reflect on the stories you've inherited, the patterns you may still be carrying, and how to create more space for your own needs, feelings, and growth.

I talk about family history, self-care, and what it really means to honor your parents' experiences without losing yourself in the process.

Take a listen if you've ever wondered:

  • How do I have compassion for my parents without dismissing my own experience?

  • Where is the line between honoring their sacrifices and carrying their pain?

  • What can self-care actually look like in everyday life?

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Episode Timeline:

  • 00:00 Why Honoring Our Feelings Matter

  • 00:41 Honor Your Feelings Fest By Asian Mental Health Project

  • 01:55 Meditation in the Noise

  • 03:48 Fun Healing

  • 05:17 Honor Your Feelings Fest Highlights 

  • 06:30 Why Immigrant Kids Struggle

  • 09:25 Ask Yourself This Three Times

  • 13:13 Check in on This

  • 15:40 Try This


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Hey Allison Ly

Allison Ly (pronounced "LEE"), Coach for Adults with Immigrant Parents. Helping you unlock your fullest potential, live your best life while also giving back to your loved ones in a way that works for you.

My Unshaken Confidence™ Coaching Program builds on my 6 years+ as a licensed therapist and personal journey as a daughter of immigrant parents and I am excited to work with you on this through your journey in living your best life.

Some of my favorite topics include: boundaries, self compassion, managing our negative thoughts and all things that impact adults with immigrant parents. I empower you to leave the self-doubt, and self-sacrificing patterns behind while caring for those you love, in ways that work for you.

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