The One Word That’s Sabotaging Your Relationships & Self-Talk

Written By Hey Allison Ly

Ep: 21 The One Word That’s Sabotaging Your Relationships & Self-Talk

This Word Could be Holding You Back

What if the way you are using this word is quietly shaping how you feel in your relationships?

This is something that’s been coming up a lot lately and can have a much bigger impact than you might think. This may be especially true for adults with immigrant parents, where communication, guilt, and this feeling of being responsible for others’ and for so much for is already feeling so complicated. 

We don’t always realize what we are needing and wanting in the moment. 

But paying attention to this word can be so helpful to tapping into that more and also getting our needs met more.

Even if it’s happening after the fact.

Because when you begin to notice these things, and make these small shifts, 

you may also start to shift how you feel, how you show up, and what feels possible in your relationships.

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Episode Timeline:

  • 00:00 The Word to Be Mindful Of

  • 02:27 Why This Word Matters

  • 03:49 This is Vague 

  • 05:49 Being More Direct 

  • 08:47 What if You Don’t Know

  • 10:35 Choices

  • 13:49 How Guilt Plays a Role

  • 15:15 Some Phrases to Use Instead

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Hey Allison Ly

Allison Ly (pronounced "LEE"), Coach for Adults with Immigrant Parents. Helping you unlock your fullest potential, live your best life while also giving back to your loved ones in a way that works for you.

My Unshaken Confidence™ Coaching Program builds on my 6 years+ as a licensed therapist and personal journey as a daughter of immigrant parents and I am excited to work with you on this through your journey in living your best life.

Some of my favorite topics include: boundaries, self compassion, managing our negative thoughts and all things that impact adults with immigrant parents. I empower you to leave the self-doubt, and self-sacrificing patterns behind while caring for those you love, in ways that work for you.

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