Second Gen Struggles: Being the First to Do the Hard Things
I felt vulnerable writing an email to my free Adults with Immigrant Parents community, because I shared something in a “public” way, and I feel like there was a lot of shame around the ages that I mentioned.
It started off as a simple game of two truths and a lie.
Here they are:
I didn’t learn how to swim until I was twenty-eight years old.
I didn’t learn how to speak English until I was five years old.
I didn’t learn how to ride a bike until I was ten years old.
Put in your guess for what you think is the lie, I reveal to you the lie in the episode and why this is important to you.
But the most important thing is that it started off as a very simple game, BUT it really brought out something that the adults with immigrant parents community has to go through.
In this episode, I’m talking about:
Why being the first to do the new thing means you’re the one who has to put in the work -
The grief that hits my chest when I see others (and my OWN kids) have something I wish I had when younger, or even now
Why I felt guilty, even though I’m so grateful - What millennial moms with immigrant parents often have to go back through with their kids
Your task for today, which I’d love for you to let me know about
If you’re a child of immigrant parents, I hope you feel a little less alone after listening. Share this with a friend if you also want them to feel supported and understood.
🎧 Listen to the full episode HERE
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3 Free Easy-to-Use Scripts to Stop Saying 'Yes' Without Spiraling in Guilt
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Get On My Priority List For Millennial Moms with Immigrant Parents
How to create more calm, peaceful moments with your parents
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Episode Timeline:
0:00 I Felt Exposed Sharing This
1:39 Two Truths and a Lie: Take Your Guess
4:33 You're the First to Do the Hard Things 6:13 So, What's the Lie?
6:40 Feeling both Pain and Pride
8:24 "I Wish I Had That" (No Shade to My Parents)
11:06 Grateful and Sad at the Same Time
12:22 Growing Backwards
16:43 Maybe "I Don't Know Who I Am"
18:08 Your Task for Today
19:12 You Are Not Behind
20:19 Free Resource
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