To the Adult with Immigrant Parents Who Wants to Strengthen Their Relationships


Finally,
have more of the relationships you’ve been dreaming of without all the self-doubt and self-sacrificing patterns 

WHAT I WANT FOR YOU

With earlier access to these information and proven tools, maybe you won’t need to get to the point where you are feeling so burnt out, isolated, tired, irritable with the very people you want to care for the most, and then think that your only solution is to isolate, ignore or avoid people (e.g. cutting people out of your life).
It doesn’t have to be that way. 

You can live more of your life, WHILE still taking care of the ones you love.


In just 6 weeks,
(right before the holidays) you’ll know all the proven techniques and tools to help you effectively share what you want, IF you want to.


Self-sacrifice, negative self-talk and self-doubt are no longer serving you in getting the relationships you want.

Changing your thoughts is the only way to have more of the relationships you’ve always wanted and to break the self-sacrificing patterns you’ve learned

I found Allison’s information about helping 2nd Generation Asian Americans navigate personal relationships and boundaries to be very relevant and useful. Allison has a very gentle nature and listens and thinks carefully before she shares her thoughts. I really enjoyed speaking with Allison on a wide variety of topics and I know that my audience found her tips and advice applicable.
— Curtis, Host of InfatuAsian Podcast

What Others Say About Allison's Expertise on the Adults with Immigrant Experience

In Strengthening Relationships and Setting Boundaries

Allison can take challenging topics and describe them in a way that is easy to understand and implement. My favorite was the stove analogy she used when explaining how we can balance our needs with the needs of those around us – and how important it is to do so!

When we spend our life prioritizing others, it’s difficult to start prioritizing ourselves. Allison helps her clients work through this transition using The Repay Cycle.
— Christine Giarrizzo Podcaster & Blogger, ContemplativeMama.com
Allison Ly was an invaluable addition to the Minority Health Conference. Her presentation on intergenerational trauma in immigrant families and the cyclical nature of its effects resonated profoundly with the audience, generating a robust and engaging discussion.
— Jennifer Yao, Minority Health Conference Speaker Chair

If You’ve Been Wanting…

… Stronger connections with and support from your loved ones 

… to feel more confident sharing your needs, thoughts, and ideas with more ease

… to say “no” and set those boundaries with less feeling of guilt 

Then the reality is… something needs to change.

And most likely, the internal thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself, about your abilities, and sacrificing behaviors need to be different in order to fit your current goals and situation.

Your relationships may not improve in the ways you want, if you don’t do something different

I know this can be hard to do because making changes can be so difficult. It was difficult at first for me too, but with the right support and understanding of how to implement tools from a fellow adult with immigrant parents, you’ll be able to start implementing these skills with ease.

And I know you may have already …

  • Tried to do this on your own and didn’t see the outcomes you wanted

  • Read all the books and posts on how to improve on communication, and set these boundaries but it just didn’t stick

  • Felt misunderstood by those who aren’t adults with immigrant parents and their suggestions to you

  • Not had the support you wanted initially and feel discouraged 

But I’m here to simplify this for you. I’ll teach you how to strengthen your relationships, confidently express your needs and thoughts, to start to feel more supported and connected with your loved ones in easy and effective ways. 

IMAGINE YOURSELF

Being able to say “no” with more confidence

Being able to say “yes” to your loved ones, without putting your needs on the back burner

Saying “no” with less guilt, anger and frustration when your family asks you to help them with something

Saying “no” without believing that you are a “bad child”

Helping your family while still being able to LIVE YOUR LIFE

Creating space for more happy times with your loved ones


Yes! I’ve Seen It Happen

It’s possible to care for yourself AND your loved ones without feeling resentful and irritable all the time*

It’s possible to care for your parents and family members, who have sacrificed so much for your family while taking care of yourself too*

Imagine What It Would Feel Like To…



Start to feel less stressed

….when you get that phone call from your parents, asking you to help them because you’re more aware of how to balance your needs with theirs

Start to feel more confident

….around knowing and sharing your needs so you can help your loved ones on your own time and feel less resentment than you do now (instead of dodging their phone calls because you don’t know how to say “no” )

Start to enjoy your relationships more

….by spending more time with them in ways you want to (like eating noodle soup together) because you want to do more than just helping them with things


Start to be more like of the version you want to be around your family and loved ones with the Unshaken Confidence Programs


You can get the relationships you want, even with…

  • You and/or your families/loved ones not having the “best” communication styles with each other 

  • Language and cultural barriers to you and your family

  • Boundaries being a foreign concept to you and your family

  • The thought that no one will listen to you, your boundaries, and your ideas or hear what you’re saying 

  • All the things you’ve tried before on your own not working

  • The fear that your parents, family, or coworkers will just ignore you and won’t change 

  • The fear of speaking up about your needs and appearing selfish, mean, or like you’re abandoning your family. 

  • Limited time on your hands


Get access to a condensed, proven, and effective relationship building system
created for adults with immigrant parents.

I want different for you

  • Less nights where you stay up tossing and turning, replaying the conversations you wish you had

  • Have less self-sacrificing patterns that keep you from being able to ALSO do the things you want for yourself  

  • Have less self-doubting beliefs holding you back from saying the things you want, taking up space, and getting more of your needs met

  • Prevent feeling burnt out with all your obligations for others and think that you need to discontinue your relationships with the very people you care about in order to feel “better”


Introducing….

The Unshaken Confidence Program


This is all possible! That’s why I created Unshaken Confidence

A Group Coaching Program To Help You Feel More Empowered and Confident to Share Your Thoughts and Needs

Break the patterns of self-sacrifice, and self-doubt and start to live more of the life you want, so that you can have the relationships you’ve been craving

This is a 6 week group coaching program with a community component built in to help you gain more confidence in sharing your needs, thoughts and feelings to others, set boundaries, tame your negative self talk, learn more about your needs and have more of the relationships you’ve been dreaming of with your loved ones. 

It’s not just a program with lots of great tools and information.

It’s also a community

Be surrounded by those who have had experiences similar to you, who may get what you’re saying without need to explain, or justify so much.

Feel supported by other adults with immigrant parents and support each other.

Unshaken Confidence is built around the realities of what it’s like to be an adult with immigrant parents, and tackles those cultural, language and additional factors that may impede on your ability to implement these skills. 

Join and in just 6 weeks, you’ll have all the tools and information you need to feel empowered and confident to:

  • Say what you want to (when you want to)

  • Take up space (when you want to)

  • Set those boundaries (in ways that you feel less guilty about) 

  • Do more of what you love (and improve your self-care)

  • Enjoy more of your relationships  


How Will the Unshaken Confidence Program Help Me?

IS THIS YOU?

You’re Perfect for Unshaken Confidence If ...


You Are An Adult With Immigrant Parents and You Often Find Yourself:

  • feeling irritable around your loved ones, when you want to be happy around them

  • constantly needing to drop whatever it is you’re doing and help your family and then you start to feel resentful or upset

  • feeling frustrated and obligated to do things for your loved ones and feel so much pressure and heaviness

  • you end up leaving your parent’s house feeling bad for being mean and being impatient with them 

  • not having time to do things for yourself that you enjoy

  • you don’t even know what you do enjoy because of the lack of time you spent on yourself

  • expecting yourself to not feel upset, annoyed or frustrated when things are frustrating sometimes

  • scared to say “no” when your family members ask you for something when you really don’t want to help

  • OR you’re unable to say “no” because you don’t know how to say “no” in the way you want without seeming disrespectful or rude


You value and want to support your family AND…

  • You also want more for yourself outside of helping your family

  • You want to feel less guilt and fear when you do things for yourself

  • You feel like you’re a bad child and that you need to do more 

  • You feel guilty for wanting more time for yourself

You have a hard time saying “no” to your family members and…

  • When you do, you feel so bad that you end up doing the thing you said “no” to anyway and then you feel upset and annoyed for doing the thing

  • You feel like you’re abandoning your family when you don’t help them 

  • You end up losing time on things you want to do (for yourself, for your career, your other relationships)

  • You sometimes end up feeling resentful or upset at your loved ones 

  • It’s actually ruining your relationships more than you’d like

Then You Start Feeling Guilty

You end up feeling bad that you’re not more helpful

You think you are not doing enough for your family


After all ….

  • you are more educated, more privileged…

  • you are more aware of your feelings

  • you are more aware of their challenges and needs

  • you’re aware of how lucky you are

  • you do want to help them (usually)


So then you start to tell yourself..

  • I am being selfish

  • I am being mean

  • I have a temper

  • I am a bad person, a bad child

… But that is NOT true

You are not selfish

You are not mean

You are not a bad person or a bad person …

YOU ARE ACTUALLY JUST…

  • burnt out

  • exhausted (so you don’t have the energy to do more)

  • having difficulty balancing all your responsibilities
    (adults with immigrant parents have a lot more than most people)

  • unsure of how to take care of your needs WHILE also taking care of others

  • not used to sharing your needs and saying “no” (or even “not right now”)

  • scared of hurting other people’s feelings by saying what you want or needs

  • avoiding sharing your needs because you don’t know how


Here’s what’s included Inside Unshaken Confidence:

All of these are Live Trainings held on Zoom with Q&A after (you can submit questions ahead of time too!)

  • 4 steps to share anything to anyone

    • Learn the most effective communication tools to sort out your thoughts and share them with others, more quickly

  • Tame the Negative Self Talk and Doubt

    • Discover how to release your old thoughts, beliefs and patterns that are keeping you from having the relationships and life you want

  • Boundary Setting Made Easy

    • Discover how to share your boundaries and needs in a way that makes you not riddled with guilt

  • Decisions with Less Guilt

    • Discover how to make decisions quicker with less overthinking

    • Get access to tools to help you master decision making

  • Overcoming Your Learned Self-Sacrificing Patterns

    • Get access to a condensed, proven, and effective relationship building system created for adults with immigrant parents.

    • breaking the self-sacrificing patterns

  • Gaining More Control (over your time, emotions, expectations)

    • Start gaining more awareness to what your needs and feelings are

    • Start feeling more in control and knowing when you want to respond/share to others

      And be apart of a community of other adults with immigrant parents to support each other


When You Enroll in Unshaken Confidence, You’re Getting the Culmination of 6+ Years of Experience Working with Adults With Immigrant Parents and Tools that Have Been Proven to Work.

Get the tools and information NECESSARY for you to work on changing the mindset you’ve had that is no longer serving you, as well as achieving the goals you want for yourself and your relationships.

You can start using the tools and information you learn with one relationship to start, as you’re mastering the skills. And then you can use it in all and every interaction your heart desires because you will be empowered and knowledgable on deciding when to use what skills, and where.


You get to take everything you learn about communication skills, boundary settings, decision making and self-care in ways that work for you FOREVER.


These skills apply to all relationships!

So what’s the investment to start getting more of the relationships you want?

Unshaken Confidence is a $997 investment
- but until October 3rd… you get it for 50% off! (That’s $500 off)


ENROLL IN UNSHAKEN CONFIDENCE TODAY!

Say What You Want to Say, When You Want To

Join before October 3rd 11:59PM to become a Founding Member and get 50% off

$997 JUST $497

(That’s $500 dollars off as a Founding Member)

Here’s the VIP Treatment When You Join


To support you through this process even more, you also get these BONUSES…
as a Founding Member (in addition to the $500 off $997 $497)

BONUS #1

Setting Boundaries Live Workshop - 1.5 hours ($125 value)

An additional LIVE Boundary Setting Workshop with Q&A with Allison to go over examples, answer any questions you may have and provided support for you. The intention is to help you practice the skills! Learning something new and having a safe, supportive environment is necessary for the mastering new skills. You can also submit your own scenarios (anonymously or not) to practice boundary setting together.

BONUS #2

Decision Making Workshop - 1.5 hours ($125 value)

An additional LIVE Decision Making Workshop with Q&A with Allison to practice the art of decision making that works for you. This can be about scheduling, personal decisions, learning more about yourself so that you can feel empowered to share your needs and decisions when you want to. This is to help you practice your skills, and practice reflecting more on your needs.


BONUS #3

4 Steps to Communicate Template, with Emotions List ($27 value)

Have this template handy, on your phone or to quickly reference as needed to help you practice sharing your thoughts, needs, boundaries and ideas with ease.

BONUS #4

Boundary Setting Cheatsheet ($37 value)

You won’t feel lost with what type of boundaries you want to set and in what scenarios. This cheatsheet will prompt you to think of the most important parts of boundary setting to get you more comfortable and confident to set them.

BONUS #5

1:1 Hot Seat Call with Allison: 30 minutes ($150 value)
Hot seat call: The two of us will meet one-on-one to work through any questions or challenges you may be having with the material
Use within the 8 weeks of our time together



That’s over $400
value of bonuses included to help simplify and expedite your progress


I’m 100% with you on this, my fellow Adult with Immigrant Parents…

I want to offer you a 100% risk-free guarantee.

I understand the risk you’re taking on this, as we may not have worked together before. 

When you join, you’ve got 90 days. If, within those 90 days, and you still feel like this isn’t providing the information promised, simply show us that you’ve done the work, and we can refund you your investment! Just send an email to info@heyallisonly.com to let me and my team know.

Why Would I do that?

That’s just the right thing to do!

My goal is to be helpful; I know these tools have helped sooo many of my clients already so I know they work. BUT if it doesn’t work for you for any reason, I don’t want you investing in something that you did not find helpful, especially if you’ve put in the work to learn the skills.

Now we can’t promise an outcome of how people will respond to you, but these tools will make it easier for you to start sharing your needs, setting those boundaries, and be on your way to start strengthening your relationships. This is the starting point. 


JOIN US IN
UNSHAKEN CONFIDENCE


Doors open from Monday, September 30- Thursday, October 3rd 11:59PM PST

Join before October 3rd to become a Founding Member: meaning you get the most input on the types of information that gets included, and you’ll get the most face to face time with me, giving you direct feedback, suggestions, and ideas to help you feel even more empowered.

Plus- you get the 50% off of $997, saving you $500 to learn all the skills and tools in Unshaken Confidence

You get all the 6 Weeks of Live Training and Information, plus 2 live workshops, and 2 Communication and Boundary Templates to help you save time and expedite your progress.


All for $497

We start our first Live Group Coaching Call October 15, 2024

Join the community of adults with immigrant parents who can better understand the experiences like yours.

All call will be held via Zoom on Tuesdays from 10-12PM PST

  • Week 1: 4 steps to share anything to anyone

  • Week 2: Tame the Negative Self Talk and Doubt

  • Week 3: Boundary Setting Made Easy

  • Week 4: Decisions with Less Guilt

  • Week 5: Overcoming Your Learned Self-Sacrificing Patterns

  • Week 6: Gaining More Control (over your time, emotions, expectations)

  • Bonus Call 7: Setting Boundaries Live Workshop

  • Bonus Call 8: Decision Making Workshop


Hey, Allison here!


WHAT I WANT FOR YOU

With earlier access to these information and proven tools, maybe you won’t need to get to the point where you are feeling so burnt out, isolated, tired, irritable with the very people you want to care for the most, and then think that your only solution is to isolate, ignore or avoid people (e.g. cutting people out of your life). It doesn’t have to be that way. 

That’s why I created The Unshaken Confidence Program; to help Adults with Immigrant Parents, like you, live more of your life, WHILE still taking care of the ones you love.

I’ve been there.

And I know the tools that may help you feel more empowered to navigate your experiences after 6+ years of working with adults with immigrant parents exclusively (and my own personal experiences). 

I also know these tools have helped me and my clients live more of the life they want by being more informed, and feeling more confident and more empowered to do more of what they want, speak their minds, and enjoy more the relationships they value most.

And now? I want the same for you. 

That’s why this program exists; you can learn these tools to start to feel more empowered to have the relationships you’ve been wanting, too. 

Let’s do this!

WHY I DO WHAT I DO

I got into this work with Adults with Immigrant Parents because I have immigrant parents myself.

And because of that I’ve always wanted to give back to my community and help as many people with immigrant parents as much as possible. I know some of the personal challenges in trying to navigate the world as a young person and adult who wants to figure out their own set of values while honoring and caring for their parents, their families.

That’s why I started off working with individuals with immigrant parents as a mental health therapist. That was the most direct way to impact people, by providing one on one support. I have been able to help so many people start to be able to take care of themselves WHILE also helping and supporting their loved ones, in ways that work for them.


WHAT MY CLIENTS HAVE BEEN ABLE TO DO

My clients have been able to increase awareness of their own needs, leading them to have increased self care, practice setting boundaries, improve on their communication skills and manage disagreements and differences better.

But after helping adults with immigrant parents find ways to take care of themselves, strengthen their relationships, all the while valuing their needs and goals for over 6 years as a licensed mental health therapist, I kept seeing the same patterns adults of immigrant parents were going through. 

I realized the tools you need to start address the repeated patterns didn’t need to require months, and years of one on one therapy to be available to you. 


The tools, infromation needed to start to address these patterns that adults with immigrant parents were facing needed to be made accessible to MORE people.

That way, you can get a head start. These tools you can start implementing now and with support (the coaching calls, one on one coaching) you’ll be on your way to using these tools as soon as possible! 

HERE IS THE GOOD NEWS

You can start to take care of your loved ones WHILE also taking care of yourself more

You can STOP neglecting your own needs as a knee-jerk reaction

You can start to live more of your life in ways you want to

You can start to strengthen your most important relationships

I’ve seen this happen (and I’ve achieved this in my personal life)

These are the types of things I love to help clients sort through for their unique situations

With all the challenges that come with balancing two worlds, and two different expectations - learning to set navigate your needs with your family’s need is SO difficult, especially as an adult with immigrant parents

You’ve been trying to do it all

On your own

You’ve read articles, books

But it’s still a challenge

And you don’t need to do it alone anymore

With my 3 step framework, there will be a walk through of questions to ask yourself, factors to consider, things to think about. The goal is to EMPOWER you to feel more confidence in knowing why you’re doing the things you’re doing, and why that’s important to you.

That way, if you want, you can find ways to care for your loved while still making time for you to do more of what you want to do.

Answers to Frequently Asked Questions

Click on your question to read the answers below

* Your individual results may vary. There is no promised outcome

Everyone has unique circumstances that will play a role in their results. That’s why I meet my clients where they are at.
You will get information and frameworks to help you decide how you want to proceed.

JOIN US IN UNSHAKEN CONFIDENCE



Doors open from Monday, September 30- Thursday, October 3rd 11:59PM PST


Join before October 3rd as a Founding Member:
for 50% off of $997, saving you $500


We start our first Live Group Call October 15, 2024


All call will be held via Zoom on Tuesdays from 10-12PM PST

  • Week 1: 4 steps to share anything to anyone

  • Week 2: Tame the Negative Self Talk and Doubt

  • Week 3: Boundary Setting Made Easy

  • Week 4: Decisions with Less Guilt

  • Week 5: Overcoming Your Learned Self-Sacrificing Patterns

  • Week 6: Gaining More Control (over your time, emotions, expectations)

  • Bonus Call: Setting Boundaries Live Workshop

  • Bonus Call: Decision Making Workshop



And don’t forget about your
bonuses!

BONUS #1
Setting Boundaries Live Workshop
($125 value)

BONUS #2
Decision Making Workshop
($125 value)

BONUS #3
4 Steps to Communicate Template,
($27 value)

BONUS #4
Boundary Setting Cheatsheet
($37 value)

BONUS #5
1 Hot Seat Call with Allison: 30 minutes.
($150 value).